Countdown to College Blog
This blog is designed to help upper school families stay focused on approaching each step of the college selection process with a God-centered perspective. It is written by Jodi Foxx, the Director of College Counseling at Charlotte Christian School.
I recently took my nephews and niece (ages 10, 11 and 13) to the North Carolina Museum of Natural Sciences in Raleigh. If you’ve been there, you know this is a quality museum with lots of hands on activities for kids of all ages. Their affiliation with the Smithsonian shows. When reporting on their visit to their parents, one of them rattled on about how much he LOVED it, one gave it a solid ranking of “it was good” and the other said the only positive thing in the museum was the cheeseburger he ate in the café. C’est la vie. They each have their own likes and dislikes. At least the cheeseburger was good, right? I’m pretty sure that all parents with more than one child can relate to this story.
We see the same thing play out in our offices as teenagers (and parents) share their opinions about colleges. One person thinks a particular college is an amazing place to live and learn while another person wonders aloud why people choose that same college. We take special care to understand each student’s preferences in recommending colleges, trying to match them with what they consider to be an amazing place to live and learn.
(As an aside, can I remind you that personal preference plays a big role in the college choice? Just because one person loves a college doesn’t mean that you will. And, vice versa, don’t let one person’s negative story about a college convince you that it’s a place without value. Do your own research.)
It’s all a matter of perspective.
But as I caution you to be careful about adopting another person’s opinion carte blanche without doing your own investigation, let’s take this even bigger. Be careful not to view the college choice only from a human perspective.
As is true in all major decisions (and minor decisions), God’s perspective should be our starting point. We need to view everything…all the things…through God-colored glasses. But if you’re anything like me, it’s so much more natural to start with my own human perspective. Which is flawed and self-centered and considers only a fraction of the whole picture, but strangely seems right! Going beyond that to consider God’s perspective, clearly the better perspective, takes special effort on my part.
So can I offer some suggestions on God’s perspective in your college choice? Here’s what I think he wants for students to find in their college years:
1.Connection to Christian community. We are clearly instructed to meet together in Christian community (Hebrews 10:25). This is where we find our greatest encouragement and support, which is especially important for a young person leaving home for the first time.
That Christian community might come from a campus ministry or a local church. Or you might want to go even bigger and choose a Christian college where the entire campus is a Christian community. Whatever this looks like for you, consider carefully the presence of Christian community at a given college.
2.Academic challenge. Our instruction to “love the Lord our God with all our mind” (Luke 10:27) absolutely applies to the college years. God gave us intellect and he wants us to use that gift to honor him. That includes studying theology but it also includes studying all of God’s creation (including people), the arts and any way to act on our individual gifts.
Students should choose a college that will help them reach the next level academically and will allow them to go deeper with their unique, God-given talents and interests.
3.It’s not just about getting a job. A quick scan through Proverbs shows us that God is in support of us being productive members of society, able to provide for ourselves and do work of value in the community. But he also makes it clear that gaining in wisdom is more important than gaining wealth. (Proverbs 16:16) Choosing a college (or a college major) based only on the income potential of the job that may follow, might be misguided if it doesn’t also offer opportunities to gain in wisdom.
There are so many ways to gain wisdom in the college years! An honors program. A study abroad experience. A deep discussion with a roommate, classmate or professor. Meeting people from a different walk of life. A Bible study, an insightful sermon, a class on theology taught from a Christian perspective or a mission trip. Yes, everyone wants to be employed after college and that’s a good thing. But don’t make the pursuit of that job more important than the pursuit of wisdom.
It’s all a matter of perspective. Reading the words of Jesus reminds us that God’s perspective usually sounds strange to someone thinking from a human perspective.
Our God-colored glasses sometimes change everything. Whether you’re at the beginning, middle or end of the college search, grab your God-colored glasses to help you think and choose wisely.
A few years ago, I met with a senior girl and her dad as they were trying to make a final college decision. The senior had narrowed her choices down to two colleges but couldn’t find a reason to select one over the other. She told me all about the virtues of both campuses and looked ever-so-stuck in making a case to choose one as her favorite.
The whole conversation changed when her dad pointed out to her that he had observed her feeling more at peace on one campus versus the other. That simple observation was the turning point that ended up swaying her decision. She stopped looking at the pros and cons that were so equal as to be unhelpful and instead considered her gut feeling, realizing that one felt more like home than the other.
Here’s an important point not to miss: That moment was made possible by a dad who had carefully studied his daughter when they were on college visits. I would encourage you to do the same.
While you’re visiting a college and listening to the tour guide tell you all about the dorms and the library and the food, take the time to observe your teenager. If it’s the first campus visit, you might see a nervous and uncertain teenager, to be fair. But as you complete all of your visits, watch for your teenager to settle in and look at ease. Watch for them to find a place that will feel like home. Comfort matters.
That said, the college years are an important time of growth toward adulthood. We all know that the most impactful growth comes from times of challenge. Considering that, I would argue that there is such a thing as a college that is too comfortable. While comfort is necessary for a college to feel like home, challenge is necessary for your teenager to become an independent adult.
So every time you drive away from a college visit, ask yourself the following questions:
1.Could my teenager be comfortable here?
Consider that comfort comes from relationships, with being able to find their “people.” For many of our students, comfort comes from plugging in with a thriving Christian community.
2.Could my teenager be challenged here?
That challenge might come from things like distance from home; the diversity of thought present on campus; the depth of the academic experience; the opportunity to study abroad and/or being able to engage in transformative Christian service, either locally or abroad. What constitutes a challenge will vary for each teenager, too, even among siblings.
In fact, one could make a strong case that finding this balance between comfort and challenge is at the crux of their entire college search – maybe even more important than anything else, especially rankings or prestige or name recognition of the college your teenager attends - because the comfort level will allow them to feel safe enough to take risks, and those risks will lead to necessary growth. Let’s be honest, growth is what we’re after, not a fancy name on the diploma.
Study your teenager when you visit college campuses. When the moment of decision arrives in your home, you can be that parent who points out to his daughter what he observed about her on each campus she visited. You’ll win the day when you add this valuable insight to the college decision.
In the most recent parent survey, a large majority of parents indicated that a “Christ-Centered Education” was the top reason why they chose to enroll their children at Charlotte Christian. 72.6% of you, to be precise. Clearly, we are a community that values Christian education.
Your children have experienced several aspects of a Christian education here: they’ve taken Bible classes and had biblical truth integrated into their instruction in every subject. Our spiritual life program has provided weekly chapels and special programs such as Windy Gap and the Spiritual Life Conference. When they’ve faced the challenges of adolescence, they’ve had Christian teachers praying with them and surrounding them with biblically sound advice to offer. They’ve been part of a Christian community.
I bet you can think of several times that you were grateful to have your children in a Christian school.
I’m sure you also find yourself praying for your child to have similar experiences in their college years. Praying for a Christian roommate, for a Christian adult to serve as a mentor, for ministries that will foster your child’s spiritual growth, for a strong Christian community.
There’s a way to increase the odds of these things coming to pass. We have many wonderful Christian colleges all around our country who provide the next level of Christian education. They come in all varieties: large and small, urban and rural, close to home and far away, denominational and non-denominational. They work diligently to prepare students for careers and adulthood. They have robust honors programs and a commitment to academic excellence. There might just be one that suits your child perfectly.
Charlotte Christian is committed to helping you understand your options for Christian education at the collegiate level. We partner with an organization of Christian colleges called NACCAP to host a Christian College Fair each September.
This year’s fair will be on Monday, Sept. 24 from 6-8 p.m. in the Lamb/Johnson Gym and we would love to see you there! Bring a friend. Bring your questions. Bring your curiosity. You’ll have an opportunity to hear from more than 40 colleges located around the country who offer distinctively Christian programs.
Take a look at www.christiancollegefairs.com for more information. At this website, you’ll find lots of valuable tools: a list of colleges that will be in attendance at the fair, a free download of 10 Questions to Ask at a College Fair, and a search tool of Christian colleges that will allow you to generate a list of schools that offer the academic and/or extracurricular programs that are important to your child.
If you decide to join us at this fair, click on the “Fair Barcode” link at the top of the page to register for the fair. Bring that barcode with you to the fair and then admission officers from colleges that interest your family can easily scan the barcode to add your child to their mailing lists.
One of my mantras with seniors in their fall semester is to CREATE OPTIONS as they finalize their college list. They should apply to every possible type of college that appeals to them. How about creating the option of Christian education at the college level?
See you at the fair!
Director of College Counseling
Students aren’t the only ones with summer reading assignments; the same is true for the faculty. The Old Testament portion of “The Story: The Bible as One Continuing Story of God and His People” has been on our reading list for the summer. What I love most about reading the Old Testament is that it includes story after story after story of God’s amazing strength and power. He works remarkable miracles through ordinary people who simply demonstrated genuine faith.
The parting of the Red Sea, allowing Moses to lead the Israelites out of slavery in Egypt.
The defeat of thousands in the mighty Midianite army by only 300 Israelite soldiers led by Gideon.
David’s defeat of Goliath accomplished with just a slingshot and a stone.
Daniel surviving the night in a den of lions.
There are more…many more…but you get the idea. Reading the Old Testament is a constant reminder that our God can do amazing things through ordinary people.
As I recall these heartening stories from the Bible, my mind begins to wander to the ways that God has worked in my own life. He has carried me through periods of worry, transition, mourning and joy. He has been my constant when everything else was changing around me. I can identify several markers on my own personal timeline when God revealed himself and orchestrated key events in my life.
I bet you can do the same. Take a few minutes to think through the times in your life when God carried you; when he brought just the right person or experience into your life at just the right time; when he equipped you to overcome an obstacle; or when he made clear the path you should take.
Doesn’t it just make you want to stop everything and thank God for his goodness and love?
Here’s the best part: God’s not done! He is still working in our lives. Still carrying us through challenging times. Still guiding us through life decisions. Still bringing just the right people at just the right time. He never stops working in our lives. Never.
As we begin the school year, I bet there’s something on your mind that makes you nervous for your child. Will he be able to manage the academic challenges? Will she find an affirming and positive group of friends? Will he be able to gain admission to the college he loves? Will she get the scholarship we need?
Watching your child navigate the teen years comes with opportunities for worry. But when that nagging fear creeps back into your mind, fight back with the power of God. Cling to God’s promises knowing that he is able to do immeasurably more than we ask or imagine. Remember the great things he has done for you already. Remember that he’s still at work. And look forward with anticipation of all that is to come. Praise God, he is good and he carries those who approach him in genuine faith!
“Only fear the Lord and serve him faithfully with all your heart. For consider what great things he has done for you.” 1 Samuel 12:24
Director of College Counseling
With the August opening of college admission applications right around the corner, parents of rising seniors are mindful of the work soon to be done. Parents often ask us what can be accomplished during the summer?
While the students will do the lion’s share of all work on college admission applications, there are certainly ways that parents can support their children in the summer before their senior year. See below for some ideas of tasks that parents of rising seniors can work on this summer.
1.Commit college planning to God. Before we undertake any task, large or small, it is always best to start by asking for God’s help and guidance. Pray with and for your rising senior about every aspect of college planning: admission to a college where your child will thrive, financial provision, a compatible roommate and direction for each step of the way.
2.Finalize the list of colleges to which your rising senior will apply. You will want to consider every possible type of college that your child would like to have as an option, and include at least one college of each type on your final list. These types might include large vs. small, public vs. private, Christian vs. secular, close to home vs. farther away, etc. Our advice is to aim for a final list of 3-6 colleges, and include at least one in-state public college to create that financial option. Would you like some help in reviewing your list? We are glad to offer our thoughts on the likelihood of admission to the colleges you are targeting and suggest additional colleges if that would be helpful.
3.Keep an open mind. Generally speaking, the students who feel most stressed during the college application process are those who believe that only one specific college will be a good fit. The more you can steer the conversation in your home to a variety of colleges, the easier this process will be for your senior. Do your best to keep an open mind about which college will best suit your child and be intentional about allowing God to direct the course. The senior year is a journey and God will be at work. Sometimes students end up attending the college they have loved all along and sometimes they change their course and embrace a new plan with just as much enthusiasm. Stay open-minded as much as possible.
4.Prepare a timeline of deadlines. One of the great ways that parents support the college admission application process is to keep everyone organized. With your student’s list of colleges now finalized, make a master list of all deadlines for admission and scholarship applications.
5.Research scholarship options. Our students receive the bulk of their scholarship offers directly from their colleges. Take some time this summer to research the scholarships offered at the colleges on your list and familiarize yourself with the requirements and deadlines.
6.Encourage your rising senior to complete a final draft of at least one essay. This is the most time-consuming part of the college application process, and many colleges release their essay prompts before they open their applications. All students have learned how to write this essay in their Junior Seminar class and have completed a first draft. Encourage your rising senior to spend some time on this essay, editing it to a final draft. Want some help in this area? We are offering two essay-writing workshops at CCS this summer - one during the week of July 23 with Mrs. Ashley Ausman and one during the week of July 30 with Mrs. Kylie Crowley. Let us know if you would like more details about how to register your rising senior for one of these workshops.
7.Reflect on God’s unique design of your child. As you talk with God about everything on your mind regarding college plans, ask him to give you fresh insight into the person he created your child to be. Think reflectively about which college environment will best suit your unique child and ask God to direct you accordingly. Remember that you are not looking for a college that YOU would love to attend. You are looking for the college environment where YOUR CHILD will thrive in this next stage of life.
Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you.
Director of College Counseling
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